Somewhere in Brooklyn

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Let Me Explain — Bryson Tiller




Are millennials in real relationships?


With the surge of social media and online dating, it seems almost impossible to be in a “traditional” relationship. Some years ago, I wrote a Facebook post stating that I could never date a man with social media. In 2017, while this still stands true, a decision like this would leave me with really slim pickings.

So, what’s a twenty-something woman to do?


Some women, and men, may choose to turn a blind-eye to their partner’s online life.

Ever find yourself spending time with your special someone, and instead of conversing with you, s/he’s sitting at the far end of the room, eyes glued to the phone screen, thumb slowly scrolling up and down? I can’t be the only one who’s experienced this.

Instead of speaking up to remind him of your presence, you sit idly by until he’s ready to connect with the real-life human in front of him.

Settling cannot last if you’re trying to be a part of a healthy, long-term relationship.

Playing the role of the “cool girlfriend” is a mask.

Set & Maintain Standards

If you’re in a long-term relationship, it may be difficult to start setting standards out of the blue. It may also be difficult if you’re in an open/non-commited relationship. If you find yourself in the latter situation, I’d urge you to truly evaluate your relationship. Ask yourself, “Is this the person for me?”, “Can I build a future with him?”. I’ve asked myself these questions, and of course there’s a constant battle between my brain and my heart.

This approach would work best for the assertive type. Being assertive grants you a certain level of comfortability during moments when you need to speak your mind.

What’s your main purpose for being so present on social media?

Do you plan on using them forever?

I can’t see myself settling down with someone who gives more conversation and attention to a girl on the internet than to me. Do you have any thoughts?

I’d caution that when having this type of conversation, be sure to know your man. Some may choose to avoid, so be sure to have a face-to-face conversation, as opposed to one through text. Or, he may be the defensive type. Irregardless of his response, what ever he says or does will give you better insight into your relationship.

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Somewhere in Brooklyn

Be You


I Love the Dough — The Notorious B.I.G. ft. Jay-Z



Let’s talk facts & figures


For the past two weeks, I’ve been contemplating whether or not to publish this post. Now, with the current hype surrounding Jay-Z’s 4:44, it only seems right — and a little late.


When talking finances, my current reality is that I am swimming in debt. And it’s not the end of the world.

I start a new job in a few weeks, and my main focus will be to pay off these bills. Aside from my lifelines — one through blood, the other through love — I’ve managed to use my credit to stay afloat.

At one point, I considered bankruptcy. TLC & Donald Trump did it, so eh!



I think that when considering my car loan, student loans, and credit card balances, I’ve amassed $100,000  worth of debt. So, I’ve decided to use my current situation as a life lesson. The main takeaway being: use your income to invest in your future — general savings, IRAs, CDs, education, etc.



Have you ever seen an armored truck follow a hearse?








Notorious B.I.G. “I Love the Dough”

Jay-Z ‘The Story of OJ”


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Let’s go back …


XO – Beyonce


To that birthday; when we had dinner in the city,

Taking pictures to capture the moment.

I still have those, y’know?


We rode back to your place with the top down.

“Which way do you want to go?”

Deep down,

You knew the answer.

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Somewhere in Brooklyn

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Wild Thoughts — DJ Khaled ft. Rihanna & Bryson Tiller



Your time is coming. : )


From school, family, friends, and love, this week has definitely involved plenty of building and mending.

Let’s keep that up!

Summer ’17, though …


Do you ever get worked up over who or what you do not have? If you’re anything like me, those fleeting thoughts storm in at the worst possible time. Like last night…


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Somewhere in Brooklyn

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Sky’s the Limit — Notorious B.I.G. ft. 112





It’s an amazing feeling when you see your hard work finally beginning to pay off.

Note to Self: You are your best investment.

I’m sure I’ll have to remind myself of this.


I’m excited about starting this blog. I just hope that I’m able to keep it up! … Which is why I chose to keep the layout really simple.

Although things are definitely looking up, I’m feeling a bit thrown off this week. I’m running behind schedule with quite a few things, so I’m hopping to tighten up before the week ends…

There’s a cat call in the far distance. Well, across the street.

Sir, are you serious? I find it extremely bothersome the lack  I find the lack of respect people have for others — and even themselves — extremely bothersome. When men casually speak to me in the street, I always return a friendly greeting. But hissing at me will not get a reply. A simple “Hi. How you doin’?“, or “Good morning will suffice.


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Which leads me to my recent experiences on some social media apps. When I initially rejoined Instagram (oh, about 4 days ago), I signed up for several other socializing apps: Badoo, Bloglovin’, and several shopping apps …


I deactivated my IG the same day.



Then I had the idea for my blog. So, I decided to use Instagram to add some pizazz to the site. I also made a conscious decision not to mindlessly scroll through photos and videos, forgetting about my actual life. I’m using IG to reconnect, for image hosting, and to occasionally stay in the loop.


OVO Fest


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Somewhere in Brooklyn

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“Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind”

— Bernard Baruch

Slay on



Sky’s the Limit (Instrumental) — Notorious B.I.G. ft. 112



Who am I?

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A question begging to be answered. Unfortunately, I don’t have the definitive answer — nor do I think there will ever be one. Here’s what I do know:

I am a lifelong learner. I am an entrepreneur.

I am a hopeless romantic. I am politically conscious (#woke).

 I am a feminist. Unapologetically. 

I am family oriented.

I am [not]   w h a t  y o u  t h i n k.



So, why a blog?

I’ve been on hiatus for quite some time. I needed to find my peace, and myself. Social media can consume you…if you allow it to. When I was a frequent user, I did not realize that the sites and apps I was visiting were not necessarily the platforms to best represent me. And, quite frankly, at 23 and 24 I. Knew. It. All. Or so I thought.


The fact of the matter is…

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