Let Me Explain — Bryson Tiller
Are millennials in real relationships?
With the surge of social media and online dating, it seems almost impossible to be in a “traditional” relationship. Some years ago, I wrote a Facebook post stating that I could never date a man with social media. In 2017, while this still stands true, a decision like this would leave me with really slim pickings.
So, what’s a twenty-something woman to do?
Some women, and men, may choose to turn a blind-eye to their partner’s online life.
Ever find yourself spending time with your special someone, and instead of conversing with you, s/he’s sitting at the far end of the room, eyes glued to the phone screen, thumb slowly scrolling up and down? I can’t be the only one who’s experienced this.
Instead of speaking up to remind him of your presence, you sit idly by until he’s ready to connect with the real-life human in front of him.
Settling cannot last if you’re trying to be a part of a healthy, long-term relationship.
Playing the role of the “cool girlfriend” is a mask.
Set & Maintain Standards
If you’re in a long-term relationship, it may be difficult to start setting standards out of the blue. It may also be difficult if you’re in an open/non-commited relationship. If you find yourself in the latter situation, I’d urge you to truly evaluate your relationship. Ask yourself, “Is this the person for me?”, “Can I build a future with him?”. I’ve asked myself these questions, and of course there’s a constant battle between my brain and my heart.
This approach would work best for the assertive type. Being assertive grants you a certain level of comfortability during moments when you need to speak your mind.
What’s your main purpose for being so present on social media?
Do you plan on using them forever?
I can’t see myself settling down with someone who gives more conversation and attention to a girl on the internet than to me. Do you have any thoughts?
I’d caution that when having this type of conversation, be sure to know your man. Some may choose to avoid, so be sure to have a face-to-face conversation, as opposed to one through text. Or, he may be the defensive type. Irregardless of his response, what ever he says or does will give you better insight into your relationship.